11 Things to Teach Your Son Before He Heads Off to College

Much to my surprise, I have found dropping off (“turning loose” may be a better term) a young man on a university campus to be a much more sobering experience then dropping off a young woman.

The first two times I loaded the Suburban and headed to college towns it was to drop off my oldest daughters, which, as you can imagine, has its own set of concerns. When I dropped off Ally and Kirby, they were ready to meet, enjoy, and integrate into their college campuses with their eyes wide open and their hearts cemented to the idea that whatever college was about, it was more than just themselves.

My girls and I had long ago shared all the necessary conversations about the duties and dangers of being a young woman in a university setting. Though it is never easy to leave any child you have invested in and enjoyed daily for eighteen years in a strange land to care for themselves, I knew it was time and we were all sad, excited, and ready.

Fast-forward a few years and all of a sudden my wife and I were about to make our way to Fayetteville, Arkansas, home of the Razorbacks (the boy had said “no” to the Ivy League option) to drop off our firstborn son. As the day neared, and much to my surprise, I had a growing and much different sense of responsibility in sending off a young man to college then I did a young woman. I knew college meant my son, like my daughters before him, would have a new and greater freedom to live and lead his life as he wanted, AND I knew that there were dads, just like me years earlier, who were dropping off their freshman daughters where they would either be blessed or burdened by the young men around them.

One might think that dropping off a girl and leaving her alone around a bunch of newly unleashed young “men” with unlimited freedom and limited maturity was the more daunting task, but such was not the case for me. Without going into too much detail, suffice it to say that I found it more sobering to turn loose a potential predator then I did potential prey.

What you have below is a summary of the last hours of conversation this father had with his son as he dropped him off to prayerfully be faithful in “Fayetteville and forever.” I pray daily that these truths would be embedded in his heart for more than just the four years of college, and you can be certain that I am praying now that they will be in some way useful to you as you seek to be faithful yourself and with any men you are charged with shaping. Fayetteville is not the only place that needs faithful men…right where you are does too.

So to my son Cooper (and later Cade and Camp) and to you today, I say…

It’s all about Jesus.

  • College is not a time to taste the world. It’s a time to increase your appetite for God’s Word.
  • First, believe that college is not a time to sow your wild oats. It is a time to show your world Whose you are.
  • John 1:1-4Colossians 1:15-171 Corinthians 6:19-20

Jesus is all about bringing you to the Father, and the Father is all about restoring His glory in you.

If you know the Father and the Son and yield to the Holy Spirit, you will love and serve others.

 You can’t love and serve others if you don’t lead and feed yourself.

How you start each day, each week, and each semester determines more than you can imagine.

Who you choose to run with and live life with is how you will choose to run and live.

Who you are when you’re alone is alone who you are.

Women are not play toys. They are God’s daughters. Honor them. Protect them. Serve them.

  • Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
  • Wait to taste the lips of a woman. Don’t waste yourself on lust.
  • Consult your dad on all dates and consider every time you are alone with a woman a date.
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8; Proverbs 31:30Proverbs 22:31 Timothy 5:2

Do not choose your friends or your future career by how much fame or finances they offer.

 Be wise. Be humble. Be fun. Beware of the lie that those three are mutually exclusive.

  • You have a powerful enemy who wants you to be foolish, be prideful, and believe that faithfulness to the Father is a fast track to futility. He is a liar.
  • John 8:44Proverbs 13:13-15Psalm 16:11

Be ready. Be bold. Be kind. Be faithful.

If you’re dropping off your own son at college (or know that you will be in a few short years), now is the time to teach him these things. And if you are the newly-minted freshman yourself, commit to building your adult life on these life-giving truths.

When a Leader Fails, How Long Until They Can Be Restored to Ministry?

 When a Leader Fails, How Long Until They Can Be Restored to Ministry? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. It is a red flag if a person who has compromised their ability to lead is focused on a timetable for restoration more than personal transformation and repentance.
  2. Restoration of fellowship should not be confused with restoration to leadership.
  3. A fallen leader may or may not ever be restored back to the same level of ministry, but that does not mean that person cannot be forgiven.
  4. Pulling someone who has been wounded by their own sin out of frontline ministry is the most loving thing you can do.
  5. The fallen leader’s goal should not be restoration to their previous position; the goal should be walking in humility before the Lord and others the rest of their life.
  6. Trust is earned, it is not deserved.
  7. Make sure the leader is exhibiting godly sorrow, not worldly sorrow.
  8. One of the best ways to lead others and restore trust is to NOT demand they consider you trustworthy.
  9. Restoring intimacy with Christ through confessing and forsaking is worth infinitely more than any job, position or title.
  10. There is no probationary period with your Father in heaven. Come to your senses and He will run to you and slaughter the fatted calf for you.

Scripture:

“The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.” Psalm 51:17

“He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.” Proverbs 28:13

“…appoint elders in every city…namely, if any man is above reproach, the husband of one wife, having children who believe, not accused of dissipation or rebellion.” Titus 1:5-6

“A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a citadel.” Proverbs 18:19

“For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death.” 2 Corinthians 7:10

Recommended Resources:

What Does The Bible Say About Covenant Membership And Church Discipline?

What Is One of the Biggest Mistakes a Pastor Can Make?

Check out the story of “The Prodigal Son” in Luke 15:11-32

Can Someone Do the Work of the Lord and Not Be Saved?

Can Someone Do the Work of the Lord and Not Be Saved? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter.” Matt. 7:21

“Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’” Matt. 7:22

“And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness.’” Matt 7:23

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter.” Matt 7:21

“Therefore they said to Him, ‘What shall we do, so that we may work the works of God?’” John 6:28

“Jesus answered and said to them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He has sent.” John 6:29

“When Jesus had said this, He became troubled in spirit, and testified and said, “Truly, truly, I say to you, that one of you will betray Me.” John 13:21

“And He called the twelve together, and gave them power and authority over all the demons and to heal diseases.” Luke 9:1

“When the apostles returned, they gave an account to Him of all that they had done. Taking them with Him, He withdrew by Himself to a city called Bethsaida.” Luke 9:10

“The disciples began looking at one another, at a loss to know of which one He was speaking.” John 13:22

“So Simon Peter gestured to him, and said to him, “Tell us who it is of whom He is speaking.” John 13:24

“Jesus then answered, “That is the one for whom I shall dip the morsel and give it to him.” So when He had dipped the morsel, He took and gave it to Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot.” John 13:26

After the morsel, Satan then entered into him. Therefore Jesus said to him, “What you do, do quickly.” John 13:27

“Now no one of those reclining at the table knew for what purpose He had said this to him.” John 13:28

“And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness.’” Matt. 7:23

“For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son.” Col. 1:13

“Therefore bear fruit in keeping with repentance;” Matt 3:8

“But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth.” Col. 3:8

Principles:

  1. The work of God is to really believe what Jesus says.
  2. God is going to use you regardless of your submission to Him. It makes no difference to Him. It will make an eternal difference to you.
  3. The Church is never in more danger than when false teachers tell the truth, because it builds confidence in their lies.
  4. Make sure you do the work of God, which is to believe in Jesus with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength.

Additional Resources:

  1. What Is the Gift of Prophecy?
  2. How Do I Know If I Am Saved?

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What Is the Golden Rule and Is It in the Bible?

What Is the Golden Rule and Is It in the Bible? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Jesus doesn’t call us to limit our response, He calls us to love with our response.
  2. It is not enough to avoid evil, Jesus commands us to do good
  3. The Golden Rule is a call to action.
  4. We are compelled by Scripture to love our enemies. Love is always active.
  5. If you’re not living out the Golden Rule, that may be the reason your evangelism isn’t very effective.

Scripture:

“In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12

“You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself; I am the Lord.” Leviticus 19:18

“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” Matthew 22:36

“And He said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’” Matthew 22:37

“The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’” Matthew 22:39

“On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 22:40

“For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’” Galatians 5:14

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’” Matthew 5:38

“But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also.” Matthew 5:39

“But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great…” Luke 6:35

“… and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.” Luke 6:35

“He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, to love kindness and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8

“Is this not the fast which I choose, to loosen the bonds of wickedness, to undo the bands of the yoke…” – Isaiah 58:6

“… and to let the oppressed go free and break every yoke?” – Isaiah 58:6

“So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of the faith.” Galatians 6:10

“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,” 1 Corinthians 13:4

“Love does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered” 1 Cor 13:5

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Cor 13:7

“Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” Matt. 5:48

“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

“Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” Matt 7:6

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” Matt 7:7-8

“In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” Matt. 7:12

Recommended Resources:

Was Jesus Teaching Pacifism in Matthew 5:38-42?

What is the Gospel?

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What Does Proverbs 14:4 Mean?

What Does Proverbs 14:4 Mean? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:
1. Isolation is the garden in which idiosyncrasies grow.
2. You’re going to become more like you should be when there are oxen in your life.
3. All of us together are better than any of us alone.
4. Beware that you don’t quickly get rid of “problems” (teammates) that are producing a lot of good in your life.
5. Proverbs is recommending that you don’t love a “clean manger” more than a dirty one that provides for you the benefit of an “ox.”
6. The children that cause you “trouble” are a gift from the Lord that will bring you great joy as you tend to them in the manger of your home. (Ps. 127:3-5)
7. Don’t be inflexible and intolerable. Be gracious and long-suffering.

Scripture:
“Where no oxen are, the manger is clean, But much revenue comes by the strength of the ox.” Proverbs 14:4

“To give prudence to the naive, To the youth knowledge and discretion” Proverbs 1:4

“To understand a proverb and a figure, The words of the wise and their riddles.” Proverbs 1:6

“Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17

Recommended Resources:

TEAM – Together Everyone Achieves More

Can the Bible Be Trusted?

What does it mean to be in Biblical community?

How Do I Start A Hard Conversation?

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Was Jesus Teaching Pacifism in Matthew 5:38-42?

Was Jesus Teaching Pacifism in Matthew 5:38-42? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

1. In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus references the last part of the Ten Commandments that speak about how we are to relate to one another.

2. The Sermon on the Mount is a message on how Kingdom people are called to live and love others.

3. Jesus is teaching a Kingdom ethic to heirs of the Kingdom. He’s describing the heart of a disciple, not the qualification to become one.

4. In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus is correcting His followers’ understanding of the law and teaching it’s true intention.

5. Retaliation and asserting rights is NOT the first response of a citizen of the Kingdom of heaven.

6. The Law was there to limit human aggression but the love of Christ implores us to excel still more.

7. The Bible does not teach that we should let people be abusive towards us.

8. The reason most people hurt you, is because they are hurting. You ought to be God’s source of grace in their life.

9. don’t confuse your obligation as a faithful follower of Christ with your role as a faithful citizen of your God ordained government. (Romans 13:1-7)

10. Christians can and should participate as ministers of God in the prosecution of evil as part of a God ordained, sovereign, nation-state.

11. Be a peacemaker, not a pacifist. A minister of reconciliation, not a punching bag. (James 3:18)

12. It is not loving to let someone continue in sin towards you.

Scripture:

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also.” Matthew 5:38-40

But we know that the Law is good, if one uses it lawfully, realizing the fact that the law is not made for a righteous person, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners… 1 Timothy 1:8-9

“For I say to you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will not enter the Kingdom of heaven. You have heard that the ancients were told, ‘You shall not commit murder’ and ‘Whoever commits murder shall be liable to the court.’ And whoever says, ‘You fool,’ shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell. But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; ” Matthew 5:20-22

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28

If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to go into hell. Matthew 5:30

…but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:32

But I say to you, make no oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is the footstool of His feet, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. Matthew 5:34-35

But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is of evil.” Matthew 5:37

But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:20-21

But if there is any further injury, then you shall appoint as a penalty life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth hand for hand, foot for foot, burn for burn, wound for wound, bruise for bruise. Exodus 21:23-25

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. Matthew 5:9

…for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. Luke 6:35-36

…or to governors as sent by him for the punishment of evildoers and the praise of those who do right. 1 Peter 2:14

Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted. Galatians 6:1-3

But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed.” Matthew 18:16

But Jesus was saying, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” And they cast lots, dividing up His garments among themselves. Luke 23:34

Love…does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered. 1 Corinthians 13:5

If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Romans 12:18

Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. 2 Corinthians 5:20

Other Resources:

Biblical “Pacifism”: Anybody who takes the name of God should never act aggressively toward somebody else.

Conflict Resolution Field Guide

How Do I Start A Hard Conversation?

What Does It Mean to “Overlook A Minor Offense”? 

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Can the Bible Be Trusted?

Can the Bible Be Trusted? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth Real Quick.

Principles:

1. The Bible is not a rulebook. It is the story of God’s redemption working in human history.
2. There has never been an event in history that has contradicted the claims the Bible said were going to happen.
3. The Bible is unique in that it is anchored in human history.

Scripture:

“Every word of God is tested; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him.” Proverbs 30:5

“By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:35

“that they may all be one; even as You, Father, are in Me and I in You, that they also may be in Us, so that the world may believe that You sent Me.” John 17:21

Other Resources:

The Four Ps
1. Production
2. Preservation
3. Proclamation
4. Product

Evidence for the Reliability of the New Testament

Piecing Together the Dead Sea Scrolls

Contending with Christianity’s Critics Series

Discovering Scripture Core Class

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How Old Is The Earth?

How Old Is The Earth? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles
1. The question regarding the age of the earth is one that exposes our assumptions of and understanding about design and the creation process.

2. Darwinistic theory is a theory.

3. The more we examine what the data suggests happened, the closer we get to answering the question, “Are you a creationist?”.

4. Judging things based on appearance alone is never a good idea. The assumption that natural processes alone are the only kind of operative process is also a mistake.

5. We often rule out the fact that there are some unnatural things that happen in this natural earth.

6. The Bible is not a science book, which is a good thing because science books change continually.

7. The opposite of faith is not science or reason, the opposite of faith is disbelief. The opposite of reason is irrationality.

8. The Scientific Method requires observation of events that can be repeated. We cannot go back and repeat a one-time historical event.

9. The Scriptures rebuke the idea that nothing exists outside of natural processes in history.

10. Some natural processes once thought to require a very long period of time have actually proved to require less time.

11. The Bible deals with and addresses practical atheism, which is people living as if there is no God.

12. God has intervened supernaturally before, and He is going to intervene again.

13. Don’t be intimidated by the idea that the earth looks old, and don’t be intimidated by the fact that the Bible is not a science book.

14. The hard sciences are there to test repeatable events, not to judge whether or not something in history is true.

15. The God who created us is willing to make us new again.

Scripture:

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” Hebrews 13:8

“God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis 1:27

“God made the two great lights, the greater light to govern the day, and the lesser light to govern the night; He made the stars also.” Genesis 1:16

“For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness,” Romans 1:18

“Know this first of all, that in the last days mockers will come with their mocking, following after their own lusts,” 2 Peter 3:3

“and saying, “Where is the promise of His coming? For ever since the fathers fell asleep, all continues just as it was from the beginning of creation.” 2 Peter 3:4

“For when they maintain this, it escapes their notice that by the word of God the heavens existed long ago and the earth was formed out of water and by water,” 2 Peter 3:5

“through which the world at that time was destroyed, being flooded with water.” 2 Peter 3:6

“But by His word the present heavens and earth are being reserved for fire, kept for the day of judgment and destruction of ungodly men.” 2 Peter 3:7

“But by His word the present heavens and earth are being reserved for fire, kept for the day of judgment and destruction of ungodly men.” 2 Peter 3:7

“The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3:9

“For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made…” Romans 1:20

“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.” 2 Corinthians 5:17

Other Resources:

The Scientific Method:
1. Make an observation
2. Ask a question
3. Formulate a hypothesis
4. Conduct an experiment
5. Analyze data and draw a conclusion.

Article on Creation, Evolution, and Intelligent Design in Public Schools

Why Does God Allow Hurricanes, Earthquakes, and Other Natural Disasters?

How Do I Become A Christian?

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Why Does God Seek to Kill Moses in Exodus 4:24?

Why Does God Seek to Kill Moses in Exodus 4:24? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Principles

  1. Human position, privilege, or education are not what qualify a person to be useful to the Lord. Humility and relationship to God do.
  2. The Creator God is the one who knows what is best for us. Listen to Him!
  3. The Lord was letting Moses know that He only uses holy and
    righteous people.
  4. Unrighteous people will not be used to represent a righteous God to others.
  5. God is not going to use unrighteous people who do not do what He says to judge other people.
  6. God loves us enough to keep us focused on righteousness instead of retaining us as a leader.
  7. Moses had lost his zeal for obedience to God, and the Lord was not going to use a leader like that to deliver others.
  8. When we are not serious about the righteousness of God, it’s not just God who is upset, it also hurts other people.

Scripture:
To read the full story of Moses, check out: Exodus 2-4

“Now it came about at the lodging place on the way that the Lord met
him and sought to put him to death.” Exodus 4:24

“And every male among you who is eight days old shall be circumcised
throughout your generations,…” Genesis 17:12

“…as it is written, “There is none righteous, not even one; there is none who understands, there is none who seeks for God;…” Romans 3:10-11

“What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it?” Romans 6:1-2

“Then Zipporah took a flint and cut off her son’s foreskin and threw it at Moses’ feet, and she said, “You are indeed a bridegroom of blood to me.” Exodus 4:25

To read the story of Achan, go to: Joshua 7.

Please read the account of Ananias and Sapphira in Acts 5:1-11

Recommended Resources:
What Does It Mean To Have A Relationship With God?

What Is A Fully Devoted Follower Of Christ?

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What Is The Meaning of Jesus’ Exception Clause in Matthew 19:9?

What Is The Meaning of Jesus’ Exception Clause in Matthew 19:9? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. The exception clause is NOT an expectation clause.
  2. Expectation of Scripture is reconciliation and a fulfillmentof the covenant view of marriage.
  3. Marriage is permanent on earth. Exclusive between male and female. Illustrative of Christ’s love for the Church.
  4. If you end a marriage relationship for any reason other than your spouse already having committed adultery, your divorce will likely cause them to commit adultery.
  5. What God has oned, we should not unone.
  6. You can’t make someone “become” what they already are.
  7. Kingdom people with a kingdom ethic, live how the King wants them to.
  8. Moses commanded them to explain why they are divorcing their spouse, not to divorce their spouse.
  9. The goal or expectation is that kingdom people will always desire and work for reconciliation.

Scripture:
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9

“If we are faithless, He remains faithful, for He cannot deny Himself.” 2 Timothy 2:13

“And Pharisees came up to him and tested him…” Matthew 19: 3

“Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” Matthew 19: 3

“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19: 4-6

“You have heard that it was said, ‘YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY’; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28

See Deuteronomy 24:1-4

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 5:3

“He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way.” Matthew 19:8

“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house…” Deuteronomy 24:1

“But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.” Matthew 19:11

Other Resources:

  1. Can Believers Remarry After A Divorce?
  2. Is It Ever Okay To Get A Divorce?
  3. Watermark’s Statement on Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage
  4. MESSAGE – What Jesus Says About Divorce in Matthew 5:31-32 

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