Is It Okay for Christians to Watch Horror Movies?

Is It Okay for Christians to Watch Horror Movies? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Anyone who is serious about “seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” (Matthew 6:33) should avoid anything that does not bring glory to God.
  2. Evaluate the entertainment you consume against the words of Psalm 101:3, “I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless.”
  3. When you start a sentence with, “I’m doing this because I love it,” rather than “I’m doing this because I love God,” that is problematic.
  4. Make sure your entertainment choices reflect a heart that is ready for your King’s return, rather than a heart that delights in earthly things.
  5. If something is alive, it is because you are feeding it. If there is something in your heart you wish wasn’t alive, stop feeding it.
  6. Sin and the things that are against God grow in the dark. Everything that is beautiful, true, and good grows in the light.
  7. So much of what we feed ourselves makes us unhealthy, and then we wonder why it is that we are sick.
  8. If you don’t want your heart to be constantly pulled toward evil things, then don’t meditate on evil things.

Scripture:
“A Psalm of David. I will sing of lovingkindness and justice, to You, O LORD, I will sing praises.” Psalm 101:1

“I will set no worthless thing before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not fasten its grip on me.” Psalm 101:3

“I will give heed to the blameless way. When will You come to me? I will walk within my house in the integrity of my heart.” Psalm 101:2

“He (a holy man) knows his own heart is like tinder, and will diligently keep clear of the sparks of temptation.” J.C. Ryle

“…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,…” Philippians 4:8

“…whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8

“The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9

“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23

“The foolishness of man ruins his way, and his heart rages against the LORD.” Proverbs 19:3

“Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 2 Timothy 2:22

“…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,…” Philippians 4:8

“…whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

Other Resources:
How Do I Know God’s Will For My Life? https://youtu.be/Xc2bhyG4l2M

Is It Okay For Believers To Participate in Halloween? https://youtu.be/fBXxT_Ne6Ns

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How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry?

How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. God doesn’t have a SOLE mate for us, but He does want us to help one another’s souls. (see Genesis 2:18)
  2. There is nothing in Scripture suggesting we have one specific person God created only for us.
  3. Your focus should not be on finding the right person. Your focus should be on becoming the right person.
  4. As you run after Christ, look to see who is running with you. That is who you want to yoke your life with.
  5. Whatever is true for the collective community of God’s people ought to absolutely be true in marriage, the most intimate of all human relationships.
  6. If you are married to someone who has a different view of wisdom than you, or a different understanding of God’s will, your house is going to be in real trouble
  7. If you want to be married, look for someone who is as passionate about following Jesus as you are.
  8. Most people are dangerously attracted to superficial things.
  9. You will not find someone who loves you well until they understand the love of Christ well.
  10. Every relationship takes work, humility, and selflessness. You will never find the perfect “one” who will keep you from having to die to yourself in order to make the relationship work.
  11. You want to pursue God’s best in everything, including marriage.
  12. You shouldn’t marry someone who is not already well-married to Jesus.
  13. God wants you to be equally yoked, ( 2 Corinthians 6:14 ) not to a specific person, but to a specific kind of person.
  14. Make sure you know what it means to walk with God, and then run with someone else who has that same passion.

Scripture Verses:
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these
things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established;” Proverbs 24:3

“And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” Proverbs 24:4

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

“Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;” 1 Peter 3:3

“…But to this one I will look, to him who is humble and contrite of spirit,
and who trembles at My word.” Isaiah 66:2

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

Additional Resources:
What Is God’s Will for My Life?

Why Does Paul Say, “Those Who Have Wives Should Live As Though They Had None”?

Marriage Testimony: David and Denise

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What Is God’s Will for My Life?

What Is God’s Will for My Life? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

1. God has revealed His will for us through His Word. When seeking His will, start with the Word.
2. Don’t worry about God’s will for your life. Worry that you would pursue God’s will.
3. You will never be more interested in knowing God’s will than God will be in revealing His will to you.
4. God is desperate for you to know His will.
5. The best way to “be sanctified” and walk in God’s will is to learn to walk like Jesus walked.
6. The Word of God is the key to knowing God’s will.
7. When you’re trying to determine what the will of God is, start with His Word; then evaluate your understanding of His Word with God’s people.
8. As we seek to know God’s will through His Word, it is good to use “the kingdom of priests” to ensure we are interpreting correctly.
9. God’s will is not a mystery, it is a mindset.
10. You can’t be serious about seeking God’s will if you are not a serious student of God’s Word.

Scripture:

“Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105

“For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with gratitude;” 1 Timothy 4:4

“for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.” 1 Timothy 4:5

“But to this one I will look, To him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.” Isaiah 66:2

“The reward of humility and the fear of the LORD are riches, honor and life.” Proverbs 22:4

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;” 1 Thessalonians 4:3

“in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

“For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin.” Hebrews 4:15

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, to love kindness, and to walk
humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8

“in which are some things hard to understand, which the untaught and unstable distort, as they do also the rest of the Scriptures,
to their own destruction.” 1 Peter 3:16

“Now it shall come about when he sits on the throne of his kingdom, he shall write for himself a copy of this law on a scroll in the
presence of the Levitical priests.” Deuteronomy 17:18

“…yet not My will, but Yours be done.” Luke 22:42

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;…” 1 Thessalonians 4:3

“Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.” John 17:17

“But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves.” James 1:22

Other Resources:
How Do I Know If I Have The Holy Spirit In Me?

What Book Of The Bible Should I Read First?

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Is It Wrong for Parents to Spank Their Children?

Is It Wrong for Parents to Spank Their Children? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Shownotes:

Principles:
1. Abuse of any kind and acting out in anger is always wrong and not productive.

2. Impulsive discipline born out of frustration or a spike in emotion is counterproductive and not supported in scripture.

3. Discipline should be thoughtful, prayerful, purposeful, and often times, progressive. You should never discipline out of anger.

4. Godly parents don’t discipline to relieve their frustration.

5. While there are incidents that merit a child experiencing appropriate physical consequences, it’s essential for the child to see the heart of the parent to shape their soul and restore the broken fellowship.

6. You should never discipline your child for you. You discipline your child for your child’s sake.

7. It is not wrong for parents to spank their child.

8. Discipline in love and discipline diligently.

9. Parents should be diligent to discipline while also understanding what type of discipline is best for their child.

Scripture:
“Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.” Proverbs 23:13

“You shall strike him with the rod and rescue his soul from Sheol.” Proverbs 23:14

“Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the treacherous is hard.” Proverbs 13:15

Additional Resources:
What is the biggest mistake most parents make?

What Does Jesus Mean When He Says to Hate Your Family in Luke 14:26? 

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What Does It Mean That An Elder Must Be the Husband of One Wife?

What Does It Mean That An Elder Must Be the Husband of One Wife? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Observations:

  1. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say an elder must have always been the husband of one wife.
  2. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say an elder must currently be the husband of one wife.
  3. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say a man cannot be an elder unless he is the husband of one wife.
  4. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say a man has to be married to be an elder.
  5. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say an elder cannot have had any treachery, dishonor, and disobedience to Christ in their past.
  6. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 says an elder’s life must be known for being above reproach in how they live today.
  7. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say a man who has divorce in his past but is humble about it and repentant of it cannot be an elder.

Scripture:

“It is a trustworthy statement: if any man aspires to the office of overseer,
it is a fine work he desires to do. An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…” 1 Timothy 3:1-2

“An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife,
temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not addicted to wine or pugnacious, but gentle, peaceable, free from the love of money.” 1 Timothy 3:2-3

“I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is
good for a man to remain as he is.” 1 Corinthians 7:26

“I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has strengthened me, because He
considered me faithful, putting me into service, even though I was formerly
a blasphemer and a persecutor and a violent aggressor.” 1 Timothy 1:12-13

“But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among
you, as is proper among saints…” Ephesians 5:3

“Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 11:1

Other Resources:

Why Does Paul Say, “Those Who Have Wives Should Live As Though They Had None”?

What Is The Meaning of Jesus’ Exception Clause in Matthew 19:9?

What’s The Best Way To Start Off A Marriage?

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What Is the Biggest Mistake Most Parents Make?

What Is the Biggest Mistake Most Parents Make? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:
1. It’s not what we do as parents, but rather what we don’t do, that provokes our kids to anger.
2. We are to be a loving authority in our child’s life, not their best friend.
3. Children eventually become angry if you let them believe that life is all about them, and there are no consequences for their choices.
4. One of the ways God drives us to grace is by allowing us to experience the pain of living a rebellious life.
5. God wants you to be a present parent who lovingly disciplines.
6. You are going to have your child on the path to destruction if you continue to let them do what they want to do without consequences.
7. If parents do not discipline their kids, the world will and it won’t be because it loves them.
8. The biggest mistake is not allowing kids to experience little consequences, because later, they will be angry about the larger, unavoidable consequences of an undisciplined life.
9. Admonishment is not enough as fools advance in their sin.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.” Colossians 3:21

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

“For whom the LORD loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.” Proverbs 3:12

“For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whom He receives.” Hebrews 12:6

“All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” Hebrews 12:11

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.” Galatians 6:7

“Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.” Proverbs 23:13

“You shall strike him with the rod and rescue his soul from Sheol.” Proverbs 23:14

“Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.” Proverbs 19:18

“The one who despises the word will be in debt to it, but the one who fears the commandment will be rewarded.” Proverbs 13:13

“Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the treacherous is hard.” Proverbs 13:15

“…Then if I am a father, where is My honor? And if I am a master, where is My respect?’ says the Lord of hosts to you, O priests who
despise My name.” Malachi 1:6

Thus the sin of the young men was very great before the LORD, for the men despised the offering of the LORD. 1 Samuel 2:17

“Now Eli was very old; and he heard all that his sons were doing to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who served at the
doorway of the tent of meeting.” 1 Samuel 2:22

“He said to them, “Why do you do such things, the evil things that I hear from all these people?” 1 Samuel 2:23

“No, my sons; for the report is not good which I hear the Lord’s people circulating.” 1 Samuel 2:24

“This will be the sign to you which will come concerning your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas: on the same day both of them will die.” 1 Samuel 2:34

Other Resources:
How Do I Talk To My Kids About Sex?
Can the Bible Be Trusted?

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When Should I Stop Sharing Truth With My Friends?

When Should I Stop Sharing Truth With My Friends? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

1. Your non-believing friends do not speak the same language as you.

2. Never stop loving your friends. BUT, there is a time to move away from admonishment and move in with transforming hope.

3. The longer you know somebody the more your walk matters than your words

4. Let the goodness of God be your song.

5. Stop preaching at people but never stop sharing the love of Christ.

6. Be a person who talks as much to God about men as you do to men about God.

7. Remember you were converted, not because of your brilliance, but because of grace.

8. Pray for and love others in all that you do; let kindness mark your words.

Scripture:

“But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.” 1 Corinthians 2:14

“Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” Matthew 7:6

“Do no reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you, Reprove a wise man and he will love you.” Proverbs 9:8

“When a wise man has a controversy with a foolish man, The foolish man either rages or laughs, and there is no rest.” Proverbs 29:9

“but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence;” 1 Peter 3:15

“Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance?” Romans 2:4

“but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence;” 1 Peter 3:15

“I will sing of the lovingkindness of the Lord forever;
To all generations I will make known Your faithfulness with my mouth.”
Psalm 89:1

“Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.” 1 Peter 2:12

“clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” 1 Peter 5:5

“And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing,” 2 Corinthians 4:3

“in whose case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving so that they might not see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” 2 Corinthians 4:4

“But when the kindness of God our Savior and His love for mankind appeared,” Titus 3:4

“He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit,” Titus 3:5

Other Resources:

Biblical guidance on moving in with transforming hope:
1. Live a holy life

2. Do not impose your views

3. Propose a better way

4. Clothe yourself with humility (1 Peter 5:5)

How Do I Talk To My Friends About Jesus?

What Are Three Questions Good Friends Should Always Ask?

If I Ask, Seek, and Knock Will It Be Given to Me? (Matthew 7:7)

If I Ask, Seek, and Knock Will It Be Given to Me? (Matthew 7:7) I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Faith is not a force, and God is not a genie.
  2. God is going to give you what is good.
  3. Praying in Jesus’ name will not make a bad request happen. Just as not praying in Jesus’ name won’t keep a good request from happening.
  4. We need to always remind ourselves that we have a good Father.
  5. The knocking of a repentant sinner with a broken and contrite heart, who asks the Lord to fellowship with them, will not be refused.
  6. God will sometimes use our not getting what we want to show us more of who He is.

Scripture:

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8

“…in which some things hard to understand, which the untaught and unstable distort, as they do also the rest of the Scriptures, to their own destruction.” 2 Peter 3:16

“Or what man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake, will he?” Matthew 7:9-10

“This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.” 1 John 5:14

“Whatever you ask in My name, that will I do, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask Me anything in My name, I will do it.” John 14:13-14

“If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.” John 15:7

“You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures.” James 4:3

“Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.” James 1:17

“And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” James 1:4

“Though the fig tree should not blossom and there be no fruit on the vines, Though the yield of the olive should fail and the fields produce no food, Though the flock should be cut off from the fold and there be not cattle in the stalls, yet I will exult in the Lord, I will rejoice in the God of my salvation. The Lord is my strength…” Habakkuk 3:17-19

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.” Revelation 3:20

“The Lord is not slow about His promise…but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3:9-10

Other Resources:

What God promises we will find if we “ask, seek and knock,” is more of Him. Even in the midst of trials and troubles on this Earth, there is nothing better than greater intimacy with the God of heaven. Jesus is promising us that we can always receive this if we ask/seek for it.

“If you should ask me to state in one phrase what I regard as the greatest defect in most Christian lives I would say that it is our failure to know God as Father as we should know Him.” – Martin Lloyd Jones

Why Pray If God Already Knows Everything Anyway?

Should I Pray In Jesus’ Name?

11 Things to Teach Your Son Before He Heads Off to College

Much to my surprise, I have found dropping off (“turning loose” may be a better term) a young man on a university campus to be a much more sobering experience then dropping off a young woman.

The first two times I loaded the Suburban and headed to college towns it was to drop off my oldest daughters, which, as you can imagine, has its own set of concerns. When I dropped off Ally and Kirby, they were ready to meet, enjoy, and integrate into their college campuses with their eyes wide open and their hearts cemented to the idea that whatever college was about, it was more than just themselves.

My girls and I had long ago shared all the necessary conversations about the duties and dangers of being a young woman in a university setting. Though it is never easy to leave any child you have invested in and enjoyed daily for eighteen years in a strange land to care for themselves, I knew it was time and we were all sad, excited, and ready.

Fast-forward a few years and all of a sudden my wife and I were about to make our way to Fayetteville, Arkansas, home of the Razorbacks (the boy had said “no” to the Ivy League option) to drop off our firstborn son. As the day neared, and much to my surprise, I had a growing and much different sense of responsibility in sending off a young man to college then I did a young woman. I knew college meant my son, like my daughters before him, would have a new and greater freedom to live and lead his life as he wanted, AND I knew that there were dads, just like me years earlier, who were dropping off their freshman daughters where they would either be blessed or burdened by the young men around them.

One might think that dropping off a girl and leaving her alone around a bunch of newly unleashed young “men” with unlimited freedom and limited maturity was the more daunting task, but such was not the case for me. Without going into too much detail, suffice it to say that I found it more sobering to turn loose a potential predator then I did potential prey.

What you have below is a summary of the last hours of conversation this father had with his son as he dropped him off to prayerfully be faithful in “Fayetteville and forever.” I pray daily that these truths would be embedded in his heart for more than just the four years of college, and you can be certain that I am praying now that they will be in some way useful to you as you seek to be faithful yourself and with any men you are charged with shaping. Fayetteville is not the only place that needs faithful men…right where you are does too.

So to my son Cooper (and later Cade and Camp) and to you today, I say…

It’s all about Jesus.

  • College is not a time to taste the world. It’s a time to increase your appetite for God’s Word.
  • First, believe that college is not a time to sow your wild oats. It is a time to show your world Whose you are.
  • John 1:1-4Colossians 1:15-171 Corinthians 6:19-20

Jesus is all about bringing you to the Father, and the Father is all about restoring His glory in you.

If you know the Father and the Son and yield to the Holy Spirit, you will love and serve others.

 You can’t love and serve others if you don’t lead and feed yourself.

How you start each day, each week, and each semester determines more than you can imagine.

Who you choose to run with and live life with is how you will choose to run and live.

Who you are when you’re alone is alone who you are.

Women are not play toys. They are God’s daughters. Honor them. Protect them. Serve them.

  • Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
  • Wait to taste the lips of a woman. Don’t waste yourself on lust.
  • Consult your dad on all dates and consider every time you are alone with a woman a date.
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8; Proverbs 31:30Proverbs 22:31 Timothy 5:2

Do not choose your friends or your future career by how much fame or finances they offer.

 Be wise. Be humble. Be fun. Beware of the lie that those three are mutually exclusive.

  • You have a powerful enemy who wants you to be foolish, be prideful, and believe that faithfulness to the Father is a fast track to futility. He is a liar.
  • John 8:44Proverbs 13:13-15Psalm 16:11

Be ready. Be bold. Be kind. Be faithful.

If you’re dropping off your own son at college (or know that you will be in a few short years), now is the time to teach him these things. And if you are the newly-minted freshman yourself, commit to building your adult life on these life-giving truths.

When a Leader Fails, How Long Until They Can Be Restored to Ministry?

 When a Leader Fails, How Long Until They Can Be Restored to Ministry? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. It is a red flag if a person who has compromised their ability to lead is focused on a timetable for restoration more than personal transformation and repentance.
  2. Restoration of fellowship should not be confused with restoration to leadership.
  3. A fallen leader may or may not ever be restored back to the same level of ministry, but that does not mean that person cannot be forgiven.
  4. Pulling someone who has been wounded by their own sin out of frontline ministry is the most loving thing you can do.
  5. The fallen leader’s goal should not be restoration to their previous position; the goal should be walking in humility before the Lord and others the rest of their life.
  6. Trust is earned, it is not deserved.
  7. Make sure the leader is exhibiting godly sorrow, not worldly sorrow.
  8. One of the best ways to lead others and restore trust is to NOT demand they consider you trustworthy.
  9. Restoring intimacy with Christ through confessing and forsaking is worth infinitely more than any job, position or title.
  10. There is no probationary period with your Father in heaven. Come to your senses and He will run to you and slaughter the fatted calf for you.

Scripture:

“The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.” Psalm 51:17

“He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.” Proverbs 28:13

“…appoint elders in every city…namely, if any man is above reproach, the husband of one wife, having children who believe, not accused of dissipation or rebellion.” Titus 1:5-6

“A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a citadel.” Proverbs 18:19

“For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death.” 2 Corinthians 7:10

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What Does The Bible Say About Covenant Membership And Church Discipline?

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Check out the story of “The Prodigal Son” in Luke 15:11-32