How Christians Should Speak to Kids and Culture on the Gender Issue

Given the media’s choice to largely ignore the story, you may have missed the details about a recent court case in Dallas centered on the custody of a seven-year-old boy. The mother of the boy said that he should be identified as a girl, claiming he made that decision himself at the age of three because he liked Disney princesses and so-called “girl toys.” She saught sole custody to “transition” the boy against the father’s wishes, and administer hormone treatments as the child neared puberty. She also wanted a court order to forbid the father from calling his son “son,” speaking his name, or referring to him as a “he.” The father said that the boy still wanted to be a boy while in his custody (in fact, the mother’s own paid “experts” testified that he “does not identify with only one gender”). He also accused the mother of contributing to his son’s perceived confusion by telling him that “monsters only eat boys.” 

Thankfully, after a jury recommended 11-1 to confirm the mother as sole custodian, the judge has intervened by ruling that joint custody will be maintained. The judge’s ruling will at least temporarily slow down the likelihood of the boy soon beginning harmful hormone therapies which would have suppressed his natural development. It is, however, easy to imagine a different judge deciding the opposite, perhaps in a state without the governor and other top politicians speaking out against it.

Here’s a not-so-bold prediction: cases like this will come up again, and the judges sometimes will decide differently, in ways that will harm children and set dangerous precedents for others. So, if you “identify” as a Christian and as a mature adult, how should you respond?

For starters, if you have kids yourself, be a parent. It is your job to be the adult. Children will be childish, by definition. They think like children (1 Corinthians 13:11). They are not reliably knowledgeable, reasonable, or wise. They lack life experience, a firm grasp of reality, and the ability to make decisions of ultimate importance. In fact, they are legally not allowed to make any major decisions on their own, and any such agreements they try to enter into are not binding. 

You are to teach them and guide them through this early stage of life. You will often, quite literally, save them from themselves. If a kid wants to put on a cape and jump off the roof because they say they are a superhero, you don’t affirm them in that decision no matter how passionately they believe they can fly. You can try to reason with them by explaining the facts of what the consequences might be. But if they don’t listen to reason (and they often won’t), you don’t just throw up your hands and let them experience those consequences. You protect them because you love them. You are the parent and parents are there to protect, not enable.

The progressive “experts” of the day say the loving thing to do is to embrace a child’s self-proclaimed “gender identity” (a new term), and give them drugs to block puberty (and likely make them permanently infertile) so they can later more easily “transition” by surgically removing healthy organs. Considering that 80 to 95 percent of kids with gender dysphoria end up identifying by their true birth/genetic gender after puberty, helping kids prevent puberty in order to change genders seems like an especially twisted form of lifelong abuse. 

In addition to being a parent to those in your own family, you need to speak up for what is universally right for all members of the human family, and especially those who have no powerful voice of their own (Proverbs 31:8-9). A key strategy of those who seek to redefine truth or promote progressive postmodern ideologies is to try to bully those who disagree with them into silence. That’s why we have a “cancel culture,” the advancement of the idea that “words are violence,” and countless other efforts to curtail free speech and civil discourse both online and off. A loud and vocal few can sound like a majority when the majority is too afraid to speak up. The resulting “spiral of silence” leaves multitudes afraid to acknowledge the “emperor has no clothes” even in the face of his obvious nakedness. 

Speak up now, lest we are soon in a world where courts do say that it’s illegal to call your son a “son,” and judges decide for you how to raise your kids. By speaking with conviction now, you can at least take comfort in knowing it wasn’t your silence that made the abuse possible. 

Finally, above all, you should love people in word and deed. Every single one of us has areas where our natural tendency is to stray from God’s design for our lives. All of us have “gone astray”; each of us has areas where we have “turned to our own way” (Isaiah 53:6). None of us is without need of admonishment, encouragement, and help. When we meet someone who is struggling, we meet ourselves, and we should lovingly point them towards the same truth we want them to use for our encouragement. That especially includes the Truth that making choices which go against God’s desires will not bring ultimate joy, peace or fullness of life. 

To speak is to love. Love without truth is not loving, and truth spoken without love will not be heard.

The greatest Truth we must continually share is that even when we do make foolish or rebellious choices, God still loves us. “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). He made provision for our sin, so that we don’t have to remain a slave to its consequences in this life or the life to come. His love waits for all who seek it. Let’s make sure we daily speak of God’s love and model its effects, so that we may make it known to every human who has lost their God-given identity as a son or daughter made in His image. 

Todd Wagner is the senior pastor at Watermark Community Church. He is the author of the book Come and See and has a weekly podcast, Real Truth Real Quick, on life, leadership and the world we live in.

How Should Christians Respond to the Case of James Younger?

How Should Christians Respond to the Case of James Younger? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Christians need to speak up and not remain silent.
  2. Christians need to know about this case, and make it known to others.
  3. We have an opportunity to generate awareness of how “progressive” ideologies are harming children.
  4. Everyone needs compassion when their broken soul longs for destructive things. Believers must meet them with the compassion of Christ.
  5. Be salt and light. Open your mouth for the mute ( Proverbs 31:8 ) as well as for those who call good evil and evil good ( Isaiah 5:20 ).

Scripture:

“and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.” Romans 1:32

“Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; Who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!” Isaiah 5:20

“Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” Ephesians 5:6

“For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural,” Romans 1:26

“and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another…” Romans 1:27

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

“Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” Ephesians 5:6

“Therefore do not be partakers with them;…” Ephesians 5:7

“Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all the unfortunate” Proverbs 31:8

“Open your mouth, judge righteously, and defend the rights of the afflicted and needy.” Proverbs 31:9

“Therefore do not be partakers with them; for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light…” Ephesians 5:7-8

“Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them;” Ephesians 5:11

“for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret.” Ephesians 5:12

“But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light.” Ephesians 5:13

“For this reason it says,“Awake, sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.” Ephesians 5:14

“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; …but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” James 5:16

Other Resources:

How Do I Respond To A Friend Who Says They Are Transgender?

How Should I Respond If My Child Says They Want to Change Their Gender?Coming soon

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What Should We Make of Kanye’s Profession of Faith and Celebrity Conversions in General?

What Should We Make of Kanye’s Profession of Faith and Celebrity Conversions in General? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. When someone professes their faith, Christians should encourage them and treat them like a true child of the faith.
  2. The first thing believers should do when someone professes their faith is rejoice.
  3. Truth is not true because people agree with it. It is true because it is truth.
  4. Your ministry should not have credibility because of a celebrity. It should be credible because it is defined by the love of Christ and sound doctrine.
  5. Pastors who platform celebrities too hastily are more pimps and predators than pastoral.
  6. If you’re giving celebrities more attention than another recent convert who is just as valuable to God, that is serious a problem.

Scripture:

“Do not lay hands upon anyone too hastily and thereby share responsibility for the sins of others; keep yourself free from sin.” 1 Timothy 5:22

“In the same way, I tell you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents” Luke 15:10

“When anyone hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what has been sown in his heart. This is the one on whom seed was sown beside the road.” Matthew 13:19

“Others fell on the rocky places, where they did not have much soil; and immediately they sprang up, because they had no depth of soil.” Matthew 13:5

“yet he has no firm root in himself, but is only temporary, and when affliction or persecution arises because of the word, immediately he falls away.” Matthew 13:21

“Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,” Romans 5:1

“through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God.” Romans 5:2

“And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance;” Romans 5:3

“and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope;” Romans 5:4

“But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called ‘Today,’ so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” Hebrews 3:13

“Others fell among the thorns, and the thorns came up and choked them out.” Matthew 13:7

“And the one on whom seed was sown among the thorns, this is the man who hears the word, and the worry of the world and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful.” Matthew 13:22

“and these whom He predestined, He also called; and these whom He called, He also justified; and these whom He justified, He also glorified.” Romans 8:30

“The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.” 2 Timothy 2:2

Additional Resources:

How Do I Know If I Am Saved?
What is The Gospel?
Can A Believer Lose Their Salvation?

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What Does It Mean to Fear the Lord?

What Does It Mean to Fear the Lord? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. God does not punish us for our sin so much as sin is its own punishment. See also Romans 6:23.
  2. The sin that offends God most is when we ascribe to God things that are untrue.
  3. Blasphemy is attributing to God something that is untrue or taking away from God something that is true. When we trifle with Truth, it will cost us.
  4. When you leave God, you are going to leave light, life and love.
  5. To fear the Lord means having a right understanding of who God is.
  6. The bible isn’t a rule book, it’s a love letter in which God reveals himself to us.
  7. Our sin is the constant belief that god is not good, His word is not true, and disobeying Him isn’t a big deal.

Scripture:

Scripture:

“The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” 1 John 4:8

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; Fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Proverbs 1:7

“…do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“The fear of the Lord prolongs life, but the years of the wicked will be shortened.” Proverbs 10:27

“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

“Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and turmoil with it.” Proverbs 15:16

“The fear of the Lord leads to life, so that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil.” Proverbs 19:23

“When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.” Proverbs 3:24

“The fear of man brings a snare, but he who trusts in the Lord will be exalted.” Proverbs 29:25

“The fear of the Lord prolongs life, but the years of the wicked will be shortened.” Proverbs 10:27

Tweetable Truth:

Additional Resources:
What is God’s Will For My Life?
How Do I Become A Christian?

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Is It Okay for Christians to Watch Horror Movies?

Is It Okay for Christians to Watch Horror Movies? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Anyone who is serious about “seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” (Matthew 6:33) should avoid anything that does not bring glory to God.
  2. Evaluate the entertainment you consume against the words of Psalm 101:3, “I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless.”
  3. When you start a sentence with, “I’m doing this because I love it,” rather than “I’m doing this because I love God,” that is problematic.
  4. Make sure your entertainment choices reflect a heart that is ready for your King’s return, rather than a heart that delights in earthly things.
  5. If something is alive, it is because you are feeding it. If there is something in your heart you wish wasn’t alive, stop feeding it.
  6. Sin and the things that are against God grow in the dark. Everything that is beautiful, true, and good grows in the light.
  7. So much of what we feed ourselves makes us unhealthy, and then we wonder why it is that we are sick.
  8. If you don’t want your heart to be constantly pulled toward evil things, then don’t meditate on evil things.

Scripture:
“A Psalm of David. I will sing of lovingkindness and justice, to You, O LORD, I will sing praises.” Psalm 101:1

“I will set no worthless thing before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not fasten its grip on me.” Psalm 101:3

“I will give heed to the blameless way. When will You come to me? I will walk within my house in the integrity of my heart.” Psalm 101:2

“He (a holy man) knows his own heart is like tinder, and will diligently keep clear of the sparks of temptation.” J.C. Ryle

“…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,…” Philippians 4:8

“…whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8

“The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9

“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23

“The foolishness of man ruins his way, and his heart rages against the LORD.” Proverbs 19:3

“Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 2 Timothy 2:22

“…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,…” Philippians 4:8

“…whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

Other Resources:
How Do I Know God’s Will For My Life? https://youtu.be/Xc2bhyG4l2M

Is It Okay For Believers To Participate in Halloween? https://youtu.be/fBXxT_Ne6Ns

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How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry?

How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. God doesn’t have a SOLE mate for us, but He does want us to help one another’s souls. (see Genesis 2:18)
  2. There is nothing in Scripture suggesting we have one specific person God created only for us.
  3. Your focus should not be on finding the right person. Your focus should be on becoming the right person.
  4. As you run after Christ, look to see who is running with you. That is who you want to yoke your life with.
  5. Whatever is true for the collective community of God’s people ought to absolutely be true in marriage, the most intimate of all human relationships.
  6. If you are married to someone who has a different view of wisdom than you, or a different understanding of God’s will, your house is going to be in real trouble
  7. If you want to be married, look for someone who is as passionate about following Jesus as you are.
  8. Most people are dangerously attracted to superficial things.
  9. You will not find someone who loves you well until they understand the love of Christ well.
  10. Every relationship takes work, humility, and selflessness. You will never find the perfect “one” who will keep you from having to die to yourself in order to make the relationship work.
  11. You want to pursue God’s best in everything, including marriage.
  12. You shouldn’t marry someone who is not already well-married to Jesus.
  13. God wants you to be equally yoked, ( 2 Corinthians 6:14 ) not to a specific person, but to a specific kind of person.
  14. Make sure you know what it means to walk with God, and then run with someone else who has that same passion.

Scripture Verses:
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these
things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established;” Proverbs 24:3

“And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” Proverbs 24:4

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

“Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;” 1 Peter 3:3

“…But to this one I will look, to him who is humble and contrite of spirit,
and who trembles at My word.” Isaiah 66:2

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

Additional Resources:
What Is God’s Will for My Life?

Why Does Paul Say, “Those Who Have Wives Should Live As Though They Had None”?

Marriage Testimony: David and Denise

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What Is God’s Will for My Life?

What Is God’s Will for My Life? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

1. God has revealed His will for us through His Word. When seeking His will, start with the Word.
2. Don’t worry about God’s will for your life. Worry that you would pursue God’s will.
3. You will never be more interested in knowing God’s will than God will be in revealing His will to you.
4. God is desperate for you to know His will.
5. The best way to “be sanctified” and walk in God’s will is to learn to walk like Jesus walked.
6. The Word of God is the key to knowing God’s will.
7. When you’re trying to determine what the will of God is, start with His Word; then evaluate your understanding of His Word with God’s people.
8. As we seek to know God’s will through His Word, it is good to use “the kingdom of priests” to ensure we are interpreting correctly.
9. God’s will is not a mystery, it is a mindset.
10. You can’t be serious about seeking God’s will if you are not a serious student of God’s Word.

Scripture:

“Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105

“For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with gratitude;” 1 Timothy 4:4

“for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.” 1 Timothy 4:5

“But to this one I will look, To him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.” Isaiah 66:2

“The reward of humility and the fear of the LORD are riches, honor and life.” Proverbs 22:4

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;” 1 Thessalonians 4:3

“in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

“For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin.” Hebrews 4:15

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, to love kindness, and to walk
humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8

“in which are some things hard to understand, which the untaught and unstable distort, as they do also the rest of the Scriptures,
to their own destruction.” 1 Peter 3:16

“Now it shall come about when he sits on the throne of his kingdom, he shall write for himself a copy of this law on a scroll in the
presence of the Levitical priests.” Deuteronomy 17:18

“…yet not My will, but Yours be done.” Luke 22:42

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;…” 1 Thessalonians 4:3

“Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.” John 17:17

“But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves.” James 1:22

Other Resources:
How Do I Know If I Have The Holy Spirit In Me?

What Book Of The Bible Should I Read First?

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Is It Wrong for Parents to Spank Their Children?

Is It Wrong for Parents to Spank Their Children? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Shownotes:

Principles:
1. Abuse of any kind and acting out in anger is always wrong and not productive.

2. Impulsive discipline born out of frustration or a spike in emotion is counterproductive and not supported in scripture.

3. Discipline should be thoughtful, prayerful, purposeful, and often times, progressive. You should never discipline out of anger.

4. Godly parents don’t discipline to relieve their frustration.

5. While there are incidents that merit a child experiencing appropriate physical consequences, it’s essential for the child to see the heart of the parent to shape their soul and restore the broken fellowship.

6. You should never discipline your child for you. You discipline your child for your child’s sake.

7. It is not wrong for parents to spank their child.

8. Discipline in love and discipline diligently.

9. Parents should be diligent to discipline while also understanding what type of discipline is best for their child.

Scripture:
“Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.” Proverbs 23:13

“You shall strike him with the rod and rescue his soul from Sheol.” Proverbs 23:14

“Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the treacherous is hard.” Proverbs 13:15

Additional Resources:
What is the biggest mistake most parents make?

What Does Jesus Mean When He Says to Hate Your Family in Luke 14:26? 

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What Does It Mean That An Elder Must Be the Husband of One Wife?

What Does It Mean That An Elder Must Be the Husband of One Wife? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Observations:

  1. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say an elder must have always been the husband of one wife.
  2. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say an elder must currently be the husband of one wife.
  3. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say a man cannot be an elder unless he is the husband of one wife.
  4. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say a man has to be married to be an elder.
  5. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say an elder cannot have had any treachery, dishonor, and disobedience to Christ in their past.
  6. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 says an elder’s life must be known for being above reproach in how they live today.
  7. 1 Timothy 3:1-2 does not say a man who has divorce in his past but is humble about it and repentant of it cannot be an elder.

Scripture:

“It is a trustworthy statement: if any man aspires to the office of overseer,
it is a fine work he desires to do. An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…” 1 Timothy 3:1-2

“An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife,
temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not addicted to wine or pugnacious, but gentle, peaceable, free from the love of money.” 1 Timothy 3:2-3

“I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is
good for a man to remain as he is.” 1 Corinthians 7:26

“I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has strengthened me, because He
considered me faithful, putting me into service, even though I was formerly
a blasphemer and a persecutor and a violent aggressor.” 1 Timothy 1:12-13

“But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among
you, as is proper among saints…” Ephesians 5:3

“Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 11:1

Other Resources:

Why Does Paul Say, “Those Who Have Wives Should Live As Though They Had None”?

What Is The Meaning of Jesus’ Exception Clause in Matthew 19:9?

What’s The Best Way To Start Off A Marriage?

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What Is the Biggest Mistake Most Parents Make?

What Is the Biggest Mistake Most Parents Make? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:
1. It’s not what we do as parents, but rather what we don’t do, that provokes our kids to anger.
2. We are to be a loving authority in our child’s life, not their best friend.
3. Children eventually become angry if you let them believe that life is all about them, and there are no consequences for their choices.
4. One of the ways God drives us to grace is by allowing us to experience the pain of living a rebellious life.
5. God wants you to be a present parent who lovingly disciplines.
6. You are going to have your child on the path to destruction if you continue to let them do what they want to do without consequences.
7. If parents do not discipline their kids, the world will and it won’t be because it loves them.
8. The biggest mistake is not allowing kids to experience little consequences, because later, they will be angry about the larger, unavoidable consequences of an undisciplined life.
9. Admonishment is not enough as fools advance in their sin.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.” Colossians 3:21

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

“For whom the LORD loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.” Proverbs 3:12

“For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whom He receives.” Hebrews 12:6

“All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” Hebrews 12:11

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.” Galatians 6:7

“Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.” Proverbs 23:13

“You shall strike him with the rod and rescue his soul from Sheol.” Proverbs 23:14

“Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.” Proverbs 19:18

“The one who despises the word will be in debt to it, but the one who fears the commandment will be rewarded.” Proverbs 13:13

“Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the treacherous is hard.” Proverbs 13:15

“…Then if I am a father, where is My honor? And if I am a master, where is My respect?’ says the Lord of hosts to you, O priests who
despise My name.” Malachi 1:6

Thus the sin of the young men was very great before the LORD, for the men despised the offering of the LORD. 1 Samuel 2:17

“Now Eli was very old; and he heard all that his sons were doing to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who served at the
doorway of the tent of meeting.” 1 Samuel 2:22

“He said to them, “Why do you do such things, the evil things that I hear from all these people?” 1 Samuel 2:23

“No, my sons; for the report is not good which I hear the Lord’s people circulating.” 1 Samuel 2:24

“This will be the sign to you which will come concerning your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas: on the same day both of them will die.” 1 Samuel 2:34

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