How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry?

How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:


  1. God doesn’t have a SOLE mate for us, but He does want us to help one another’s souls. (see Genesis 2:18)
  2. There is nothing in Scripture suggesting we have one specific person God created only for us.
  3. Your focus should not be on finding the right person. Your focus should be on becoming the right person.
  4. As you run after Christ, look to see who is running with you. That is who you want to yoke your life with.
  5. Whatever is true for the collective community of God’s people ought to absolutely be true in marriage, the most intimate of all human relationships.
  6. If you are married to someone who has a different view of wisdom than you, or a different understanding of God’s will, your house is going to be in real trouble
  7. If you want to be married, look for someone who is as passionate about following Jesus as you are.
  8. Most people are dangerously attracted to superficial things.
  9. You will not find someone who loves you well until they understand the love of Christ well.
  10. Every relationship takes work, humility, and selflessness. You will never find the perfect “one” who will keep you from having to die to yourself in order to make the relationship work.
  11. You want to pursue God’s best in everything, including marriage.
  12. You shouldn’t marry someone who is not already well-married to Jesus.
  13. God wants you to be equally yoked, ( 2 Corinthians 6:14 ) not to a specific person, but to a specific kind of person.
  14. Make sure you know what it means to walk with God, and then run with someone else who has that same passion.

Scripture Verses:
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these
things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established;” Proverbs 24:3

“And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” Proverbs 24:4

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

“Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;” 1 Peter 3:3

“…But to this one I will look, to him who is humble and contrite of spirit,
and who trembles at My word.” Isaiah 66:2

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

Additional Resources:
What Is God’s Will for My Life?

Why Does Paul Say, “Those Who Have Wives Should Live As Though They Had None”?

Marriage Testimony: David and Denise

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