Should a Local Church Have a Higher Standard For Membership Than Membership in Heaven?

Should a Local Church Have a Higher Standard For Membership Than Membership in Heaven? I answered that question this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.


Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. The local church is not a means of salvation.
  2. The local church is a means of santification, and a means to which you can experience the grace and mercies of God.
  3. We’re saved by grace through faith alone, but the faith which saves is never alone. It should be accompanied by good works.
  4. Membership in a local church is a part of the sanctification process, and it is the job of spritual leaders to protect the flock from perverse teachers and their teachings.
  5. Good shepherds protect the flock from wolves and even unruly (bully) sheep.

Scripture:

“Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

“Let a man regard us in this manner, as servants of Christ and stewards of the mysteries of God.” 1 Corinthians 4:1

“Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock, among which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to shepherd the church of God which He purchased with His own blood.” Acts 20:28

“I know that after my departure savage wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock;” Acts 20:29

“and from among your own selves men will arise, speaking perverse things, to draw away the disciples after them.” Acts 20:30

“But the Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will fall away from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons,” 1 Timothy 4:1

“that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;”   Romans 10:9

“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother.”   Matthew 18:15

“But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you…”   Matthew 18:16

“If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.”   Matthew 18:17

“It is actually reported that there is immorality among you, and immorality of such a kind as does not exist even among the Gentiles, that someone has his father’s wife.” 1 Corinthians 5:1

“You have become arrogant and have not mourned instead, so that the one who had done this deed would be removed 

from your midst.” 1 Corinthians 5:2

“For I, on my part, though absent in body but present in spirit, have already judged him who has so committed this, as though 

I were present.” 1 Corinthians 5:3

“I have decided to deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.” 1 Corinthians 5:5

Additional Resources:

How Do I Know If I Am Saved?

What Does the Bible Say About Covenant Membership and Church Discipline?

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What Does It Mean to “Train up a Child in the Way He Should Go”?

What Does It Mean to “Train up a Child in the Way He Should Go”? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

1. Proverbs are not promises, they are observations and principles that are largely true.

2. How can a kid not grow up to be a fool? Don’t allow them to learn the ways of the world from a rebellious, self – seeking, foolish authority figure.

3. Children repeat the patterns they see modeled for them as they grow up.

4. Children see how important Scripture is when their parents live their lives devoted to it.

5. Children are impacted when they witness their parents living “on mission” (having already determined they are going to do what God says to do).

6. Hurt people hurt people. Children who have been raised in peaceful homes likely will create peace for others and desire more of it for themselves.

7. When you “seek first His Kingdom and His Righteousness” one of the things God typically adds to you is the blessing of a generation that wants to follow in your steps.

8. Don’t just put Scripture on your wall, put it on your heart and live according to it.

9. When you passionately follow Christ, and the blessing of living according to God’s will and way is on you, your kids will be more likely to want more of the kindness of God they have witnessed.

Scripture:

“Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. “ Proverbs 22:6

“Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD is one!” Deuteronomy 6:4

“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” Deuteronomy 6:5

You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:7

“You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:8-9

“…but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.” Joshua 24:15

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.” Philippians 4:9

Additional Resources:

How to train up your child:
1. Have a plan ( Deuteronomy 6 )
2. You must be present to win
3. Be a parent (not a pal)
4. Passionately follow Christ

Are Family Curses Real?

What Is the Biggest Mistake Most Parents Make?

What Is a Biblical View of How To Discipline My Children?

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What is a Biblical View Of How To Discipline My Children?

What is a biblical view of how to discipline my children? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. It’s problematic when a parent’s view of discipline always involves spanking their child.
  2. Discipline that always involves spanking is lazy and not very thoughtful.
  3. The purpose of discipline should be to train your child. It is a part of the discipleship process.
  4. Love is always the motivation behind Godly discipline.
  5. The goal of discipline is not to have obedient children, but rather to raise healthy adults.
  6. Relationships without rules produce chaos.
  7. Children do childish things.
  8. Parents must determine if their child has made a childish mistake or a foolish mistake.
  9. Childish behavior needs godly patience. Foolish behavior needs godly discipline.
  10. Discipline is not for the benefit of the parent. It is for the benefit of the child as they learn that life and every good thing is found in adhering to the ways of the Lord.
  11. The ultimate goal of discipline is to conform your child to the image of Jesus Christ.

Scripture:

“The Lord descended in the cloud and stood there with him as he called upon the name of the Lord.” Exodus 34:5

“Then the Lord passed by in front of him and proclaimed, “The Lord, the Lord God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, 

and abounding in lovingkindness and truth;…” Exodus 34:6

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will 

make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.” Proverbs 19:18

“I know Ephraim, and Israel is not hidden from Me; for now, O Ephraim, you have played the harlot, Israel has defiled itself.” Hosea 5:3

Therefore I am like a moth to Ephraim and like rottenness to 

the house of Judah.   Hosea 5:12

“For I will be like a lion to Ephraim and like a young lion to the house of Judah. I, even I, will tear to pieces and go away, I will carry away, and there will be none to deliver.” Hosea 5:14

“A man who hardens his neck after much reproof will suddenly be broken beyond remedy.” Proverbs 29:1

“Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

“Rules without relationship lead to rebellion.” – Josh McDowell

Additonal Resources:

Parenting Resources

Is It Wrong For Parents To Spank Their Kids? 

What Is The Biggest Mistake Parents Make? 

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How Should I Respond If My Child Says They Want to Change Their Gender?

Show Notes:

How Should I Respond If My Child Says They Want to Change Their Gender? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Scripture:

“Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.” Proverbs 19:18

“When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“Also it is not good for a person to be without knowledge, and he who hurries his footsteps errs.” Proverbs 19:2

“The foolishness of man ruins his way, and his heart rages against the LORD.” Proverbs 19:3

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

Principles:

  1. Don’t be surprised when your children want childish things.
  2. Don’t confuse less common expressions of male or female with a child being misgendered.
  3. Empathize and lead.

Great parents do these things:

  1. Have a plan.  2. They are present.  3. They are a parent.

In Summary:

1. Love your child.  2. Listen to your child.  3. Help your child.

In all things remind them of the goodness of God and His way.

Additional Resources:

What is The Biggest Mistake Parents Make?
How Should Christians Respond to the Case of James Younger?

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How Christians Should Speak to Kids and Culture on the Gender Issue

Given the media’s choice to largely ignore the story, you may have missed the details about a recent court case in Dallas centered on the custody of a seven-year-old boy. The mother of the boy said that he should be identified as a girl, claiming he made that decision himself at the age of three because he liked Disney princesses and so-called “girl toys.” She saught sole custody to “transition” the boy against the father’s wishes, and administer hormone treatments as the child neared puberty. She also wanted a court order to forbid the father from calling his son “son,” speaking his name, or referring to him as a “he.” The father said that the boy still wanted to be a boy while in his custody (in fact, the mother’s own paid “experts” testified that he “does not identify with only one gender”). He also accused the mother of contributing to his son’s perceived confusion by telling him that “monsters only eat boys.” 

Thankfully, after a jury recommended 11-1 to confirm the mother as sole custodian, the judge has intervened by ruling that joint custody will be maintained. The judge’s ruling will at least temporarily slow down the likelihood of the boy soon beginning harmful hormone therapies which would have suppressed his natural development. It is, however, easy to imagine a different judge deciding the opposite, perhaps in a state without the governor and other top politicians speaking out against it.

Here’s a not-so-bold prediction: cases like this will come up again, and the judges sometimes will decide differently, in ways that will harm children and set dangerous precedents for others. So, if you “identify” as a Christian and as a mature adult, how should you respond?

For starters, if you have kids yourself, be a parent. It is your job to be the adult. Children will be childish, by definition. They think like children (1 Corinthians 13:11). They are not reliably knowledgeable, reasonable, or wise. They lack life experience, a firm grasp of reality, and the ability to make decisions of ultimate importance. In fact, they are legally not allowed to make any major decisions on their own, and any such agreements they try to enter into are not binding. 

You are to teach them and guide them through this early stage of life. You will often, quite literally, save them from themselves. If a kid wants to put on a cape and jump off the roof because they say they are a superhero, you don’t affirm them in that decision no matter how passionately they believe they can fly. You can try to reason with them by explaining the facts of what the consequences might be. But if they don’t listen to reason (and they often won’t), you don’t just throw up your hands and let them experience those consequences. You protect them because you love them. You are the parent and parents are there to protect, not enable.

The progressive “experts” of the day say the loving thing to do is to embrace a child’s self-proclaimed “gender identity” (a new term), and give them drugs to block puberty (and likely make them permanently infertile) so they can later more easily “transition” by surgically removing healthy organs. Considering that 80 to 95 percent of kids with gender dysphoria end up identifying by their true birth/genetic gender after puberty, helping kids prevent puberty in order to change genders seems like an especially twisted form of lifelong abuse. 

In addition to being a parent to those in your own family, you need to speak up for what is universally right for all members of the human family, and especially those who have no powerful voice of their own (Proverbs 31:8-9). A key strategy of those who seek to redefine truth or promote progressive postmodern ideologies is to try to bully those who disagree with them into silence. That’s why we have a “cancel culture,” the advancement of the idea that “words are violence,” and countless other efforts to curtail free speech and civil discourse both online and off. A loud and vocal few can sound like a majority when the majority is too afraid to speak up. The resulting “spiral of silence” leaves multitudes afraid to acknowledge the “emperor has no clothes” even in the face of his obvious nakedness. 

Speak up now, lest we are soon in a world where courts do say that it’s illegal to call your son a “son,” and judges decide for you how to raise your kids. By speaking with conviction now, you can at least take comfort in knowing it wasn’t your silence that made the abuse possible. 

Finally, above all, you should love people in word and deed. Every single one of us has areas where our natural tendency is to stray from God’s design for our lives. All of us have “gone astray”; each of us has areas where we have “turned to our own way” (Isaiah 53:6). None of us is without need of admonishment, encouragement, and help. When we meet someone who is struggling, we meet ourselves, and we should lovingly point them towards the same truth we want them to use for our encouragement. That especially includes the Truth that making choices which go against God’s desires will not bring ultimate joy, peace or fullness of life. 

To speak is to love. Love without truth is not loving, and truth spoken without love will not be heard.

The greatest Truth we must continually share is that even when we do make foolish or rebellious choices, God still loves us. “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). He made provision for our sin, so that we don’t have to remain a slave to its consequences in this life or the life to come. His love waits for all who seek it. Let’s make sure we daily speak of God’s love and model its effects, so that we may make it known to every human who has lost their God-given identity as a son or daughter made in His image. 

Todd Wagner is the senior pastor at Watermark Community Church. He is the author of the book Come and See and has a weekly podcast, Real Truth Real Quick, on life, leadership and the world we live in.

How Should Christians Respond to the Case of James Younger?

How Should Christians Respond to the Case of James Younger? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Christians need to speak up and not remain silent.
  2. Christians need to know about this case, and make it known to others.
  3. We have an opportunity to generate awareness of how “progressive” ideologies are harming children.
  4. Everyone needs compassion when their broken soul longs for destructive things. Believers must meet them with the compassion of Christ.
  5. Be salt and light. Open your mouth for the mute ( Proverbs 31:8 ) as well as for those who call good evil and evil good ( Isaiah 5:20 ).

Scripture:

“and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.” Romans 1:32

“Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; Who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!” Isaiah 5:20

“Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” Ephesians 5:6

“For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural,” Romans 1:26

“and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another…” Romans 1:27

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

“Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” Ephesians 5:6

“Therefore do not be partakers with them;…” Ephesians 5:7

“Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all the unfortunate” Proverbs 31:8

“Open your mouth, judge righteously, and defend the rights of the afflicted and needy.” Proverbs 31:9

“Therefore do not be partakers with them; for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light…” Ephesians 5:7-8

“Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them;” Ephesians 5:11

“for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret.” Ephesians 5:12

“But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light.” Ephesians 5:13

“For this reason it says,“Awake, sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.” Ephesians 5:14

“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; …but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” James 5:16

Other Resources:

How Do I Respond To A Friend Who Says They Are Transgender?

How Should I Respond If My Child Says They Want to Change Their Gender?Coming soon

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What Should We Make of Kanye’s Profession of Faith and Celebrity Conversions in General?

What Should We Make of Kanye’s Profession of Faith and Celebrity Conversions in General? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. When someone professes their faith, Christians should encourage them and treat them like a true child of the faith.
  2. The first thing believers should do when someone professes their faith is rejoice.
  3. Truth is not true because people agree with it. It is true because it is truth.
  4. Your ministry should not have credibility because of a celebrity. It should be credible because it is defined by the love of Christ and sound doctrine.
  5. Pastors who platform celebrities too hastily are more pimps and predators than pastoral.
  6. If you’re giving celebrities more attention than another recent convert who is just as valuable to God, that is serious a problem.

Scripture:

“Do not lay hands upon anyone too hastily and thereby share responsibility for the sins of others; keep yourself free from sin.” 1 Timothy 5:22

“In the same way, I tell you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents” Luke 15:10

“When anyone hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what has been sown in his heart. This is the one on whom seed was sown beside the road.” Matthew 13:19

“Others fell on the rocky places, where they did not have much soil; and immediately they sprang up, because they had no depth of soil.” Matthew 13:5

“yet he has no firm root in himself, but is only temporary, and when affliction or persecution arises because of the word, immediately he falls away.” Matthew 13:21

“Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,” Romans 5:1

“through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God.” Romans 5:2

“And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance;” Romans 5:3

“and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope;” Romans 5:4

“But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called ‘Today,’ so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” Hebrews 3:13

“Others fell among the thorns, and the thorns came up and choked them out.” Matthew 13:7

“And the one on whom seed was sown among the thorns, this is the man who hears the word, and the worry of the world and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful.” Matthew 13:22

“and these whom He predestined, He also called; and these whom He called, He also justified; and these whom He justified, He also glorified.” Romans 8:30

“The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.” 2 Timothy 2:2

Additional Resources:

How Do I Know If I Am Saved?
What is The Gospel?
Can A Believer Lose Their Salvation?

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What Does It Mean to Fear the Lord?

What Does It Mean to Fear the Lord? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. God does not punish us for our sin so much as sin is its own punishment. See also Romans 6:23.
  2. The sin that offends God most is when we ascribe to God things that are untrue.
  3. Blasphemy is attributing to God something that is untrue or taking away from God something that is true. When we trifle with Truth, it will cost us.
  4. When you leave God, you are going to leave light, life and love.
  5. To fear the Lord means having a right understanding of who God is.
  6. The bible isn’t a rule book, it’s a love letter in which God reveals himself to us.
  7. Our sin is the constant belief that god is not good, His word is not true, and disobeying Him isn’t a big deal.

Scripture:

Scripture:

“The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” 1 John 4:8

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; Fools despise wisdom and instruction.” Proverbs 1:7

“…do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

“The fear of the Lord prolongs life, but the years of the wicked will be shortened.” Proverbs 10:27

“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

“There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12

“Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and turmoil with it.” Proverbs 15:16

“The fear of the Lord leads to life, so that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil.” Proverbs 19:23

“When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.” Proverbs 3:24

“The fear of man brings a snare, but he who trusts in the Lord will be exalted.” Proverbs 29:25

“The fear of the Lord prolongs life, but the years of the wicked will be shortened.” Proverbs 10:27

Tweetable Truth:

Additional Resources:
What is God’s Will For My Life?
How Do I Become A Christian?

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Is It Okay for Christians to Watch Horror Movies?

Is It Okay for Christians to Watch Horror Movies? I answered that question on this episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. Anyone who is serious about “seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” (Matthew 6:33) should avoid anything that does not bring glory to God.
  2. Evaluate the entertainment you consume against the words of Psalm 101:3, “I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless.”
  3. When you start a sentence with, “I’m doing this because I love it,” rather than “I’m doing this because I love God,” that is problematic.
  4. Make sure your entertainment choices reflect a heart that is ready for your King’s return, rather than a heart that delights in earthly things.
  5. If something is alive, it is because you are feeding it. If there is something in your heart you wish wasn’t alive, stop feeding it.
  6. Sin and the things that are against God grow in the dark. Everything that is beautiful, true, and good grows in the light.
  7. So much of what we feed ourselves makes us unhealthy, and then we wonder why it is that we are sick.
  8. If you don’t want your heart to be constantly pulled toward evil things, then don’t meditate on evil things.

Scripture:
“A Psalm of David. I will sing of lovingkindness and justice, to You, O LORD, I will sing praises.” Psalm 101:1

“I will set no worthless thing before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not fasten its grip on me.” Psalm 101:3

“I will give heed to the blameless way. When will You come to me? I will walk within my house in the integrity of my heart.” Psalm 101:2

“He (a holy man) knows his own heart is like tinder, and will diligently keep clear of the sparks of temptation.” J.C. Ryle

“…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,…” Philippians 4:8

“…whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8

“The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9

“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23

“The foolishness of man ruins his way, and his heart rages against the LORD.” Proverbs 19:3

“Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 2 Timothy 2:22

“…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,…” Philippians 4:8

“…whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” Philippians 4:8

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

Other Resources:
How Do I Know God’s Will For My Life? https://youtu.be/Xc2bhyG4l2M

Is It Okay For Believers To Participate in Halloween? https://youtu.be/fBXxT_Ne6Ns

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How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry?

How Do I Know Who God Wants Me to Marry? I answered that question on this week’s episode of Real Truth. Real Quick.

Show Notes:

Principles:

  1. God doesn’t have a SOLE mate for us, but He does want us to help one another’s souls. (see Genesis 2:18)
  2. There is nothing in Scripture suggesting we have one specific person God created only for us.
  3. Your focus should not be on finding the right person. Your focus should be on becoming the right person.
  4. As you run after Christ, look to see who is running with you. That is who you want to yoke your life with.
  5. Whatever is true for the collective community of God’s people ought to absolutely be true in marriage, the most intimate of all human relationships.
  6. If you are married to someone who has a different view of wisdom than you, or a different understanding of God’s will, your house is going to be in real trouble
  7. If you want to be married, look for someone who is as passionate about following Jesus as you are.
  8. Most people are dangerously attracted to superficial things.
  9. You will not find someone who loves you well until they understand the love of Christ well.
  10. Every relationship takes work, humility, and selflessness. You will never find the perfect “one” who will keep you from having to die to yourself in order to make the relationship work.
  11. You want to pursue God’s best in everything, including marriage.
  12. You shouldn’t marry someone who is not already well-married to Jesus.
  13. God wants you to be equally yoked, ( 2 Corinthians 6:14 ) not to a specific person, but to a specific kind of person.
  14. Make sure you know what it means to walk with God, and then run with someone else who has that same passion.

Scripture Verses:
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these
things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established;” Proverbs 24:3

“And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” Proverbs 24:4

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

“Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;” 1 Peter 3:3

“…But to this one I will look, to him who is humble and contrite of spirit,
and who trembles at My word.” Isaiah 66:2

“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.” 1 Corinthians 7:28

Additional Resources:
What Is God’s Will for My Life?

Why Does Paul Say, “Those Who Have Wives Should Live As Though They Had None”?

Marriage Testimony: David and Denise

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